By Mohau Khupa
Asking questions can easily be underrated. On more narrow terms, asking the right questions can easily be considered overrated. However, it’s a never a good call to make assumptions when you can just ask. What have you got to lose? So glad you’re reading this.
It’s easy for a male modelling agent to assume that the finest looking lady at the seminar is a model as it is for the lady to assume that the gentleman exchanged business cards with her because he wants to take her out some time. The truth is she is not a model and he exchanged cards with her because he needs to meet a deadline scouting for professional models.
It’s easier for a woman to assume that the best dressed woman in the room is heterosexual as it is for a man to assume that the man with the freshest haircut in the room likes women. The truth is the best dressed woman is pansexual and the man with the freshest haircut homosexual. She can shoot her shot not any less than he can.
It’s a lot easier to assume that your partner prefers gentle strokes to hard strokes as it is to assume that they have been sexually inactive, while the truth is they prefer harder strokes and deep thrusts. Joke’s on you for assuming that you do not have to worry about being infected with some kind of virus or bacteria because she has been sexually inactive.
The effects of not asking the right questions can be dire. What could have been a prosperous business deal can easily turn into a lawsuit on account of contract breach because either party assumed they understood the role they need to play, failing which they are liable for thousands in damages.
What could otherwise be trial and error experience and perhaps not your proudest moment can easily be your most impressive and your partner’s most unforgettable. Ask a self-taught, renowned artist about their evolution and they’ll tell you that they have got it wrong many times before they got it right.
Sometimes your best option is not trial and error but getting it very right the first time. Asking the right questions is always an option you can exercise. When you ask your partner what perhaps turns them on more, what could be an elaborate moment for you to screw up can be your most impressive yet because you know what to do, you just got to do it way better.
An alternative option to asking the right questions is assuming that you know what men or women want and therefore need not ask. Consider this; your date invites you over to their house for a party for two and you do everything that turns them off. Sounds good?
I will recommend what has worked for me. I take each new experience as one unlike any I have ever had. As far as I know, I do not know how my partner wants to be caressed or stroked until I ask questions and hear it from them. Often you notice certain nuances of behaviour that require special treatment but it’s always best to confirm by asking the right questions.
